Hey there, hi there, ho there!
Last week I mentioned that I have found one of my ‘figs’ and although I’m sure you were just like ‘What the hell is she talking about?’ and then moved on with your life, I DID promise to explain myself.
My friend sent me this thing awhile ago that spoke so hard to both of us.
There is a quote by Sylvia Plath in The Bell Jar, it goes like this:
Indecisiveness is one of my character flaws. So this really hit me. Like a fig to the head.
It’s hard to find out what you want in life, so it’s amazing when one of those things comes up and blooms right before your eyes because you’ve put the work in and the love and you actually like what you are doing.
My Etsy store is one of my figs, and I’m so grateful someone thought of a platform for modern artists to get their stuff out there and to be able to sell it without having to go through the hard task of craft fairs where people won’t get to see my foul mouthed stuff.
I found one fig. I’m hoping more will fall into place and not rot at my feet.
Constant vigilance. Keep moving forward.
“I personally like being unique. I like being my own person with my own style and my own opinions and my own toothbrush. I think it’s so much better to stand out in some way and to set yourself apart from the masses. It would be so boring to look out into the world and see hundreds of people who look and think exactly like me. If I wanted that, I could just sit in front of a mirror and admire my own reflection all day. That’s already how I spend my mornings. I don’t need to spend all my time doing that.
And who’s to say what’s better or worst anyway? Who’s to even say what’s normal or average? We’re all different people and we’re allowed to be different from one another. If someone ever says you’re weird, say thank you. And then curtsy. No, don’t curtsy. That might be too weird. Bow. And tip your imaginary hat. That’ll show them.”
Ellen Degeneres, Seriously…I’m Kidding by Ellen Degeneres.
Again tonight (and a far better quote from what I’m reading) is Rachel from ‘Something Borrowed’ by Emily Giffin:
“Yes,” I finally say, somewhat apologetically. “I miss her. I can’t help it.”
He nods as though he understands. I wonder why I miss her and Dex does not. Perhaps it is because I’ve known her so much longer. Or maybe it’s the very nature of a friendship versus an intimate relationship. When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You might grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn’t a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume that it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for granted, which might be the very thing so dear about it. Even as Dex rolled those double sixes, I never imagined the end of Darcy and me.